Time is running. Last week I was so surprised when I found some acnes on my eldest son's forehead. He is nearly eleven this week. It seems that he is starting his puberty. I felt a bit nervous, worried and excited having a teenager right now. At the same time, our science topic is very supporting this occasion.
We have finished the animal and plant reproductive system. We started to discuss human reproductive system in our science last week. This topic is very exciting for kids. On the other hand, I don't feel so confident to start it. I have prepared this topic last year actually, but the confidence to start it hadn't come yet. As the time made me realise of having a teenager soon (or maybe already), I am forced to do it. It is better the kids know from me rather than from the media or people outside. I want to know what they have in their mind and what they want to ask. Asking to others will give too much risk for misinformation.
Sexual education is more than human reproductive system topic that is quite urgent to give at the moment. Therefore, just learning about the human reproductive system won't give enough information to them.
Resources for Sexual Education
It is quite hard to find free real resources which is appropriate for introduction. I found some guidelines in this link:
Sex education – primary school children – Better Health Channel
Primary school children need age-appropriate information about bodies, how babies are made, puberty, and sex. Your talks should also start to include topics such as sexual responsibility and relationships. Puberty brings about dramatic physical and emotional changes that may be frightening to an unprepared child.
Sex Education: What Children Should Learn and When
This source might be too advanced for people in my country but it is great.
I was confused how and what to start it in real. I found this link is great for a real resources: Growing and Developing Healthy Relationship. There are some links in the list of activities that are printable. I am very happy with this link. We just need to adjust with the need of kids.
Books for Human Reproductive System
Last year I found these resources in amazon.com. They are awesome and include most what kids need to coupe:
It's Not the Stork!: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends (The Family Library)
I really like this book as this introduce the sexual education for kids 4-7 years old. I read some pages of the book one night before kids slept. Even Jim, the youngest one, really likes it. There isn't any taboo things here. The best thing in this book is about the difference between boys and girls.
It's So Amazing!: A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families (The Family Library)
It has a more detail explanation and more suitable for kids between 7-10. The explanation are drawn like comic so that it gets my kids easier to understand. I like the explanation of how the ovum meet the sperm and how the menstruation happens.
Ultimate Visual Dictionary
I used the indonesian version of this book to show the reproduction chart. I have used this reference for some other topics and purposes.
Human Anatomy Coloring Book (Dover Children's Science Books)
Well this book is lovely. It has a quite detail parts of the body to colour, including the male and female reproductive system. It is really helpful to know the position of the parts and the logic function so kids won't memorise too much.
American Medical Association Boy's Guide to Becoming a Teen
We use this book for individual sharing and also further discussion of puberty. This book doesn't contain only scientific part of puberty or sexual education, but also some morale aspects of them. I bought one for Ken's 11 years old birthday on Wednesday.
Here are some points that are in my planning sheet:
- We start the lesson with KWL chart.
Kids fill in the chart of what the Know, Want to know, and later what I Learnt
- Discussion was started from The Difference Between Baby Boys/Boys/Males and Baby Girls/Girls/Females
We come to the conclusion that all parts of human body are the same, except for their sexes that identify whether the person is a female or a male
- I show them the Growing Up Change Stages
This discussion includes the topic of puberty and getting old briefly.
- Focus on Male Reproductive System
Kids colour parts of the male reproductive system taken from
Human Anatomy Coloring Book (Dover Children's Science Books). We also have some review to logically related function based on the picture.
- Focus on Female Reproductive System
In this part, kids also colour the parts of the female reproductive system, but we start first from the menstruation process to introduce the parts.
- I read aloud the Story of How the Female Cell Met the Male Cell to Form a New Baby
Scientifically I read the story to apply the concept of generative reproduction.
- A Morale Discussion of Healthy Relationship and Sexual Health
This section is the most important part, I think as human being is different from other creature as we have sense of logic and dignity than other creature. We have culture that plays very important part in our life. Cause and reason consideration to take a responsibility is needed before people take an action.
- Further Action Planning toward Puberty discussion
Kids are in the middle or ongoing process of puberty. I would call it as prepuberty. They need to take action with some case and issue of puberty so that they won't get “shocked” when they find a change in their physics.
What I can see from kids after each session so far, they look more and more mature and can respect others much better. They show more understanding toward females. We have not finished them completely yet, actually.
I hope this post can help shy and not confident people like me who was confused to start this sensitive topic. I know some of the readers should have got great experience in sexual education for kids. Please share to get everyone more insight.
The Talk and Changes
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