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Being worried is one way to show that someone feels not safe in his or her position. Having such kind of feeling is nothing wrong as nobody has any right to judge somebody else's feeling. There have been a lot of things to worry as a homeschooling mom.
First of all, i was worried about the social life of my homeschooled children. I think it should not be my personal worry. There must be plenty of homeschooler mom around the world that have the same feeling with me. Worrying about social life was the first one initiating my worrying list since the first time we started homeschooling. It gets lessen along with the time going on. It doesn't show as critical as what I have been worried about. It is just going on naturally. Here is one great resource that has helped me a lot during my worrying moments. I also like to hear some sharing from grown up homeschooled buddies like Kristen from The Road to Domestication and other homeschooler experiences.
I am always worried about the academic achievement of my children, whether my children will be able to catch up with the test or the standards the schooled children do. It is not only homeschooling moms who worry about the academic achievement I think. Even most moms of schooled children around me feel more worry about this. So what? Is academic achievement the only measurement to the success of life? Some people think so and I cannot change the world like what I think. However, I am really sure that
life is more precious than the academic achievement and there are many aspects of life other than the academic achievements.
When I think about it, my worry about it just shrinks. We should try to get the best not to be left out in the academic achievement without forgetting the value of our life which is more than the achievement.
The government regulations regarding homeschooling which always change also often make me worried a lot. It is very weird here that when the government changes, the policy about homeschooling often changes together with it. There isn't any respect towards learners here. Students' future is played around by the government officers and the corruption will always set behind most of the cases. If you haven't read about the National Exam case, you can read it here . What a very embarrassing mental playing around the children future. Sticking together with many other homeschoolers is one way to get informed and to discuss together how to resolve the problem. Homeschooling buddies are great companions for us. I always pray that my children's future will always have great ways to go.
Getting concentrated in homeschooling makes me worried also about our family economic. Although I have worked at home for the last five years to help my husband getting another income for our family, I feel worried as my own income cannot be as high as it was before as I am not focused anymore. I try hard to be frugal. However, God is really great. We are really blessed that once I got decreased income, my husband got increased one. It is very out of mind incredible. It seems that our “bowl” has got the portion.
I am also worried if I cannot teach them anymore as their materials are going to be difficult. I mean I am worried that I cannot catch up with their material standard. Children are growing fast and their learning materials will be getting more and more complicated. I sometimes feel less confident whether I would be able to cover. Well, how narrow minded I have been. I should not be their teacher forever and ever. I should be able to trust them that they have the ability to learn by themselves. There will be other people that can help them. They can go to online classes too. I forget that homeschooling doesn't mean that I am the only authorised teacher for my children. They will also learn from their life.
Another thing that makes me worry is whether my children will be happy learning as a homeschooler and they won't be regretful being homeschooled. This one is quite weird actually. All of my children are aware that the choice of being homeschooled is not from us as parents, but they also prefer to do homeschooling rather than attending school. Well, this is a hard challenge. However, whatever I have been doing, I have done it with loving them as my main reason. I might be angry with them, but I have been doing it for the sake of them. I wish that they feel that also. Having a personal relationship with each child is also one goal for me to get to know them better.
Worrying is endless when we take them seriously. Giving everything to the hands of God is the key to everything. As humans, we only can do the best, but we should not forget the blessing from the Creator. God has given everything to us, God will lead us through anything happens in our life.
What make you worried?
How do you resolve it?
Adelien Tan is a mother of three awesome boys and a wife of a great husband. They are a home education family who live in Surabaya, Indonesia, where home education is still very rare. English is her foreign language, but She tries to use it in blogging.