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One of the biggest issues of not homeschooling is the lack of mom's patience. Am I a patient homeschooling mom? Then, are all homeschooling moms patient? You might say yes, maybe, or no, but I am included in the not patient one. I am easily getting worried and angry. What might I be included that category?
Before you go further, here are some parenting books you might like to check out:
The Collapse of Parenting: How We Hurt Our Kids When We Treat Them Like Grown-UpsExplosive Child, The: A New Approach For Understanding And Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible ChildrenParenting Teens With Love And Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood, Updated and Expanded EditionParenting With Love And Logic (Updated and Expanded Edition)The 5 Love Languages of Children: The Secret to Loving Children Effectively
How Impatient I Am
Here are my confessions to you as a sinful homeschool mom for being impatient. I am not looking for excuses, but it is how I am. If you are like me or you have high tempered performance, then you should not feel alone. I have been trying my best to minimize these bad habits for these almost 10 years of homeschooling my sons.
Yelling to Children
I sometimes yell to my sons when it is hard to handle and call them. It is quite hard interrupting and stopping them watching TV. I have tried very hard to control myself from yelling. Some ways I have tried to do to control myself are: pray to get the patience and to be patient like Jesus, be thankful from I have got. I will be aware the children are the gifts from God that I should not yell at. I used to do it everyday in my quiet time. , I count myself for 5 before I yell while I take a deep breath.
I am not patient checking children works. I sometimes get the works in piles already. Being desperate with those piles of works, I will get my husband helping me. He will understand me very well and gives a hand to help. What a nice husband.
Lazy to be Creative
I rarely make worksheets for my kids. Once again, I am not that artistic and patient. I always get them doing notebooking or lapbooking. I prefer using an instant or ready-made worksheet. I should fix this impatience as well to be able more creative with my kids. There is plenty of free and paid worksheet and lesson plan throughout the internet. I just collected some of my favorite direct worksheet sites (for both free and paid) and link collection sites here
Impatient with Arts
Well, arts is really tempting my patience as I am not a kind of crafter and tidy person in doing so. I owe great help from my sister and friends who have helped me with a lot of ideas and time. Pinterest is also another helper for looking up ideas.
Easily Distracted with Children
When I feel annoyed by kids interrupting my concentration, I try hard to hold my anger by staring longer to my kids' eyes. I will stay quiet for 3 seconds to go deeper into my kids' sight and I will be aware of how cute they are.
Waiting is a Torture
Waiting for kids doing things slowly makes me really impatient. In this case, I really have to see how important they need to do it by themselves. If they really have to do it independently, then I would do multitasking but keep an eye on them. By doing so I try to put away my impatience. However, if it is really needed, I would like to help them a little, at least giving them a way or clue.
When Children are Slow
It is very hard to find kids cannot memorize and do multiplication problem or something that they should have been able to do. I think most parents would have experienced the same thing. I just keep in my mind that they learn because they cannot do it. If they have been able doing it they won't learn. When kids cannot do something, my experience shows that they have not been ready with the topic because their mind hasn't been opened yet.
One example of this case was when my middle son had to be able to colour a simple picture, he couldn't do it and I was yelling at him. Now I feel very regretful as he can draw very well right now. I shouldn't have got angry at him. This gives me a very precious lesson. We cannot predict what will happen later by looking at what happens now.
I had some friends who always made my teacher angry when I was in middle school because he liked crying and it was hard for him to understand things. Now he is a very successful businessman. My Kindie friend who always stays in class grade in high school is a very rich lady. A friend of mine always never passed a remedial test in high school is a successful vet right now.
Looking at those experience, I always try to think positively when my kids cannot understand some things after I explain many times. Being angry just will make me regretful later.
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I am an Impatient Homeschooling Mom
You see that I am not a patient homeschooling mom. Being impatient doesn't stop me to stay with my kids at home and wherever until they are ready. I know nobody is perfect. Homeschooling has been our choice with a strong motivation for me to show and to pass the greatest love from God to children and family. I still have to learn of being patient because I know that I am not a patient homeschooling mom. I pray a lot so God will give me more patience.
How patient are you?
How do you increase your patience?
What are the things that often make you angry or impatient?
Adelien Tan is a mother of three awesome boys and a wife of a great husband. They are a home education family who live in Surabaya, Indonesia, where home education is still very rare. English is her foreign language, but She tries to use it in blogging.