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Whether you’re last born, middle child or first born the fact of the matter is that birth order will affect your personality. When you grow up in a household with siblings, it often helps shape your personality. As a parent, it’s intriguing to learn more about how birth order shapes our kids’ personalities. This helps us understand why each child acts differently or handles situations differently. Today we’re going to dig deep into the topic of how birth order and personality traits are related to shape our kids’ characters.
Birth Order and Personality T
First Born Kid
The first born kid of any parent is often treated with a more strict personality. If you think about it, the first born kid is always an experiment in parenting. The child will usually have stricter guidelines, be more of a “by the book” kid when it comes to rules and expectations. The first born kid will often exhibit strong leadership skills and time management skills. The reason a kid who’s firstborn will tend to take on a leadership type personality is due to the stricter enforcement of expectations and rules while they were growing up. Even when you welcome a second kid into your home, this firstborn will always have to adhere to a higher set of standards.
Second Born or Middle Kid
A second born or middle kid, of two parents, will often struggle with the desire to be seen. Middle kids will exhibit more of a people-pleasing personality because they didn’t have as strict of rules as their first-born sibling but had some rules, unlike their spoiled younger sibling. Just ask any kid who was raised in a home with more than 1 sibling. A middle kid will often thrive on friendships, be a fabulous peacekeeper and have a large social circle. The middle child isn’t neglected by any means, but since the firstborn was already an experiment in parenthood, the second born usually gets things a bit easier. This allows the middle kid to have fewer expectations provided to them while still having rules in places that keep them grounded.
Third Born or Youngest Kid
The youngest kid of two parents tends to be more outgoing, adventurous and friendly. They have lived a life where their parents already went through two other kids and are often tired of the shenanigans at this point in parenthood. It’s not that parents don’t care about the youngest child as they did with their first and middle child, it’s just that they’ve grown more accustomed to the realities of encouraging a child to be the person they are. The youngest kid will often be more free-spirited and seek attention. They could be super energetic, hilariously funny and will often be the center of attention at any gathering. The youngest child will often know exactly who they are because they didn’t have strict standards to adhere too, since their parents already had a minimum of two experimental parenting times prior to this youngest kid.
Since each sibling is raised with a completely different parental mindset, it’s no wonder that birth order helps shape our kids’ personalities. A child who’s raised with stricter standards will have a more responsible, leadership type personality naturally because they had to adhere to a higher set of standards than their middle sibling and youngest sibling. The middle kid will sometimes struggle with
Are you interested in the topic birth order and personality traits? You might need to check out some books as other references:
Birth Order: What your position in the family really tells you about your characterThe Birth Order Book: Why You Are the Way You Are, Revised & Updated EditionBirth Order BluesBorn to Rebel: Birth Order, Family Dynamics, and Creative Lives
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Adelien Tan is a mother of three awesome boys and a wife of a great husband. They are a home education family who live in Surabaya, Indonesia, where home education is still very rare. English is her foreign language, but She tries to use it in blogging.