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Tips on Homeschooling Moms Fight
Focus on The Argument
Arguments often get broadened into other topics, especially the past time. I really don't like this kind of fighting. In all debates, it often happens. It will just lengthen the topic and not to solve the problem. Please, don't expand the points.
If you are involved in a debate that your opponent expands the topic, it is better for you to avoid by not responding to the past point, or you can remind her to return to the main point of the argument. If somebody mentions any personal mock, just don't response to it. You can object it after you cool down.
Awareness of Being Minorities
Homeschooling families are minorities in most of the countries. Try hard to avoid fighting that will break relationships. I would like to say that minorities should work together, instead of being separated. You might say that you don't need other people to homeschool or you don't depend on other people to homeschool your children. However, there are many chance that you have to get connected with the same person in the future. We don't know when, how, and where it happens.
If you live in a country that has unstable policy, you will feel that the unity of homeschooling parents is very important to get better connection and updates on the unstable regulation.
Argue to solve problem, not to win
Being aware or not, in any argument, there is always a chance when participants try to beat the opponent completely. I don't wany to deny it, but it also happens to me a lot. When my opponent still doesn't agree with me, it means I still have not won. It is very funny, isn't it? That might due to the nature of human being as a species classified into animals.
Try hard to think about what problem do you solve by fighting or debate. It is not the time to win something that only gives you temporary feeling of being satisfied emotionally.
Less Time on Gathering
Well, my mom says that too much interaction will make greater chance to experience fighting or debates. It doesn't always happen, but the more frequency we are involved, the more chance we have to quarrel. Therefore, homeschool moms need to be sensitive and alerted when the atmosphere of fighting comes up. Otherwise, you can make less frequency in being too much involved or too much interference.
Try to get somebody to be a mediator to separate whoever involved in the homeschool mom fights. If you feel stuck, you can ask other homeschool mom to stay in the middle of your fight. That will be more effective to separate both sides.
Give Time for Cooling Down
When there isn't any way out, cooling down time will be a good way to slow down your emotion. Once you listen somebody triggers a war, you should be alerted and should know when it is time to break.
Do you have any other ideas how to prevent and to solve homeschooling mom fight?