Homeschooling your children can be a big decision. Whether you’re homeschooling your children or supportive of the idea, homeschool naysayers are a given. Plenty of people disagree with educating kids from home and won’t be afraid to tell you so. However, it’s not impossible to deal with them. Today I would like to share some tips on how to deal with homeschool naysayers trying to dissuade a homeschooling lifestyle for your children.
Before we start, I would like to share some homeschool encouragement books you might need to check out to confirm yourself
Send Help . . . and Coffee!: A Shot of Encouragement for Homeschool MomsRevitalize: Breathing Life and Encouragement into Your HomeschoolNIV, Homeschool Mom’s Bible, Hardcover: Daily Personal EncouragementHomeschool Encouragement: 15 Reasons Why You Should Homeschool Your ChildJust for Today’s Homeschooling Mom: A whisper of encouragement when you need it most365 Day Homeschool Mom: Real Encouragement for Every Homeschool Day!Five Minute Devotions for the Homeschool MomThe Busy Homeschool Mom’s Guide to DaylightHomeschooling: what to do when you want to quitHow We Teach: the real lives of homeschoolers from classical to unschooling and everything in between
How to Deal With Homeschool Naysayers
Reasoning – Know it, and stand with it.
When others are being hostile or generally negative towards your decision, be sure of what you’re doing will be difficult. The biggest thing in this time for your confidence is to know your reason for homeschooling. Know this by heart; write it down if you must. Staying strong and true to that reason helps keep you from re-thinking or doubting yourself. You’ll be more confident that you did something right, and your kid(s) can rest more easily with their parent being happy about homeschooling. It’ll help make the journey a lot easier; not only by keeping you strong but by helping your kids through the lifestyle as well.
Be kind, ask questions!
Defending your decisions and ideals is often a strong-willed subject. Often, when someone argues with or is rude about those feelings your first reaction is to argue and be demeaning in return. Negativity is never the solution when you want understanding from someone. The best way to handle a situation is to ask questions. Simple things like, “Why do you feel this way?” or, “When has that happened before?” can help to diffuse a heated situation and turn the criticism into a conversation. Maybe you could even help someone see your perspective or tolerate it more.
Share successes and progression
Some of the negativity around homeschooling that influences naysayers’ opinions has to do with the misconception that homeschool harms a child’s knowledge level or success. Sharing your kid’s successes and accomplishments as well as your own in homeschooling can help others to see the bright side in home education little by little.
Homeschooling your children and helping others see your side definitely isn’t easy without the knowledge to back it up. Do your research. Learn about homeschool laws, regulations, requirements, and about the topics your kid(s) need to know. It’ll not only ease the difficulty of educating your child, but help to answer questions naysayers may have about what homeschooling is all about.
Be firm with boundaries and conversations
Not only setting firm boundaries, but standing firm in your opinions and decisions is what’s important. Sometimes, people are hard to get through to. If these people continue to be hurtful about your decisions you need to set boundaries and to let them know how they affect you and your child(ren). If you’re not firm in your thoughts and in setting boundaries then there can be a plethora of after effects. Don’t let yourself get caught up in negativity.
Have a safe space or person
Going through this will be hard for you and your child. Make time and space for talking about the hardships with your child, and find a trustworthy source of output for your own difficulties. Unloading can help you move forward and continue to have a positive future for you and your kid(s).
There you have it, some key ways for you to handle the homeschooling naysayers that come your way. Remember, you can do anything you put your mind and heart into as long as you have the right resources. Good luck!