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Since the public school required more energy than homeschool, people think that children who go there will produce more persistent people than those who are homeschooled. On the other hand, people think that homeschool produces weak-willed children. Today we will discuss the weak-willed children and How to grow persistent children in Homeschool. I know that this issue is heartbreaking, but let's think to be more positive and logical.
What It Means to Be Persistent
Being persistent is often connected to being strong-willed in a positive way. Being strong-willed is more on doing things according to whatever he or she likes, but being persistent according to dictionary.com means to continue steadfastly or firmly in some state, purpose, the course of action, the like, especially in spite opposition, remonstrance, etc. What a wonderful character for people! I will also add up that being persistent means not to easily give up when someone has to face challenges and pressure.
Persistence in Homeschool
As I mentioned previously, many people around us think that homeschool doesn't support the growth of persistence in children. Homeschool children are often associated with isolated learning (without friends). How do children grow to be persistent in such safe and less pressure environment? No competition and fewer challenges than the children who go to school? It can be a fact that doesn't always happen only in a homeschool environment or condition, but you can help children to be more persistent.
How to grow persistent children in Homeschool
Persistence Comes with Readiness
First of all, I would like to use an analogy of homeschooling children to growing plants in the garden. Let us think about the gardeners who take care of plant shoots in the nursery. They need to make sure that the shoots are strong to be able to receive natural sunlight, wind, and rain. The appropriate environment for baby plants will make them stronger to grow up under pressure and temptation when they are growing up. I think it is similar with growing up kids in homeschooling. Please don't be discourages when you think that children give up easily because persistence comes with readiness. Once children are ready, they will show it.
The natural pressures and temptation struck at the right time and place would be a much better life lesson that makes people stronger and smarter as they should have been ready mentally and physically. The artificial pressures and temptation without mental preparation might get them weaker so that they might go to the wrong “direction”.
Persistence Can Grow with Hobbies
Persistence doesn't always grow with the academic lessons only, but hobbies and interests are more likely triggering children to be more persistence. Since children are more confident in their interests, they will be more internally motivated to their achievements. Therefore, if you have known children's patience, it will be easier to increase their persistence. Otherwise, you can try to get more extra activities to know interest and hobbies.
Persistence Comes with Opportunity
You can help children to be more persistent by getting frequent chances to show off what they can do well in competitions and performances. In both occasions, children are more likely willing to show their best. That is the chance for you to help them to be more persistent at the same time with being more confident.
Persistence Happens with Success Motivation
Have a lot of discussions with children about the value of being successful in some different area of life. Get them more motivated to achieve success so they can get the benefits of being successful. Being motivated to be successful, children will likely to be more persistent in doing something related to their interests as a start. It will lead to other different areas of life.
Persistence Needs Encouragements
Please don't give up to your children, even when they have already melted down. Your roles as parents are very important to help them being persistent. Without giving them pressure, you can grow their confidence to face challenges.
Facing Bigger Challenge in The Future
Well, what kind of preparation that is needed to prepare them for the bigger challenge? For me, the most important thing is spiritual, mental, and other characteristic qualifications. Every family has unique ways to build those qualifications. Those treasures should be much better grown up in the family environment.
This is also another job for homeschooling parents to prepare their children to be ready for the pressure and temptation in the future, including facing the competition and doing cooperation.
This post is a part of the Negative Issues about Homeschool series. You might check out the other posts to get more information about this topic:
Negative Issues in Homeschool
Adelien Tan is a mother of three awesome boys and a wife of a great husband. They are a home education family who live in Surabaya, Indonesia, where home education is still very rare. English is her foreign language, but She tries to use it in blogging.