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Some families choose homeschooling their children because there is not any other choice for their children's education, but many families still choose homeschooling although they still have choices for their children's education. Many people think that the second condition is weird. Well, we belong to the second choice. If you are in the same category with us, do you ever think, “Is homeschooling the best choice for children?”
This is just our fourth year of homeschooling my two older sons after pulling them out of the public school. In the middle of the homeschooling journey, I often rethink about the benefits of homeschooling for my children. There is a time that I feel doubtful toward our decision to homeschool my children considering
- How impatient I am
There are several times that my patience is being tempted by my children. I am worried if my impatience has hurt my children emotionally, although they say they are fine with it.
- How my children have grown a lot. The are just really different from when we started our homeschooling. The hormone has changed. They sometimes want to play to other friends' house. I just feel worried if it is the result of not going to school.
- There are also some challenging issues regarding homeschooling. There is a time that I feel the opposite ideas of homeschooling make me think twice doubting the choice of homeschooling.
I am not going to burn out I think, but I am just wondering if I have made the right decision for my children. I know that my children have agreed to homeschool since the first time we started it, but sometimes I just feel worried if they would blame me for homeschooling them in the right and ideal ways.
Ask Your Children
The easiest way to know about your worry is asking your children about how they feel toward homeschooling. People say that homeschooling decision is in parents' authority. With children you can communicate with, why don't you try to get their honest opinion to get you more feedback about what you have done so far.
I regularly ask my children's points of view about their homeschooling time and every time they still feel happy with what we are doing. Of course we cannot trust what we have heard from them in raw, but we have to think further the realistic and logical facts we face together. There might be a chance that they have been used to say things negatively or positively so their reasons are not accurate. If it happens we need to try to change the negative response becomes positive one with some action and without any force. Just respect what the children say.
Do Regular Evaluation
Regular evaluation is needed to make sure that you are not far away from your homeschooling vision and mission. You might do the evaluation with your husband and children or you can do it by yourself. Sit down together to write what work
- Things work well
- Things don't work well
- How close you have been to the vision and mission
- How you can improve your days, your relationship in the family, and your relationship with God.
If you feel that all turn up positively, you might say that homeschooling is still the best choice. It doesn't need to be perfect, but in a scale of 1 to 10, 5 is still acceptable for me. Everyone has different standard and condition, for sure. Don't worry about getting too low score. Evaluation is a tool to improve things. It is not a judge. Think further whether you are the 5 possible or 5 impossible homeschooling parents. If you are still under the 5 possible homeschooling parents, then it is still safe for you to go on with your choice. Homeschooling is still the best choice. If you belong to the 5 impossible homeschooling parents, just rethink about your decision.
Whatever your religion is, prayer is the first tool and detector whether you have chosen the best choice for your children. I believe that God has given parents the main duty to educate their children. Thus, I am very sure that homeschooling parents have followed God's will. However, there are some conditions where parents have to delegate the academic education of their children to others.
To think further whether homeschooling is still the best choice for your children, having some quiet conversation with God is very important. Try to listen to what God say. Follow your conscience. When things don't work well, it doesn't mean that it is something bad.
Observe Children Closely from Some Different Points of View
Use your logical consideration and facts to review how your children live from some different points of view:
Try to be as objective as possible. If you think that you cannot be objective, discuss it with others who feel contra about homeschooling. Get them thinking further about what have happened so far to your children.
Compare How They Will Look Like in Other Environments (like Public School)
Well, after you think deeper about how your children have grown so far, I believe that you might be surprised when you compare the facts with the other education choice. However, when you find that you are getting worst, it is not possible for you to just give up to get a better choice. Getting burnt out is not a sin if it is for the sake of the children.
Have you got the answer to this question?