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There are many background and reasons for people to choose homeschooling as the education methods for their children. This issue has been very interesting for people that know we are homeschooling our children. For those who still disapprove to homeschooling might have different ways to react.
- They will lecture and criticize us about the mistakes we have already made for the decision.
- They will stay away and see how we can burn out in the end.
- They will just ignore us and be quiet of having meeting the wrong people that don't have the same perspective in education.
However, some other people will open their mind as they feel that they have the same interest to homeschooling their children.
- They will usually ask why and how we homeschool our children.
- They will have positive curiosity about the community we have and the social activities children have.
- They will keep in touch with us.
Sometimes we are too excited about sharing what we have and we forget that we might have taken a huge risk of destroying them after listening to what we have shared. Homeschooling children sounds very promising for many people. However, there are some points that new homeschoolers should never hear.
New Homeschoolers Should Never Hear
Homeschooling Will Ease Your Days
This is far away from our reality. It will be great when you have peaceful days and we always wish we have one. Having kids learning and playing at home most of the time or at least in longer time than those who go to the public school is not easy. As a homeschooling and working at home mom with 3 boys, I really need to manage my time well. I need to juggle my roles as a wife, a mom, a teacher, a blogger, and a business woman. It is nothing for me if it is not added by the emotional trigger that the children make. They are really my trainer in controlling my patience.
Even if your homeschool is peaceful and quiet, I still suggest for you not to emphasize this. In case when what happen is on the opposite like mine, new homeschoolers will feel guilty and desperate easily. As a result, new homeschoolers will be discouraged easily. It is better for them to know the reality and the chaos. We can also share how to handle it. Therefore, they are not going to be shocked one day.
Homeschooling Is More Economical
I am really happy with the fact that homeschooling usually spends less money than the public or private schooling. However, I still disagree when people homeschool their children just because they want to save the money. You might like to have free resources without informing them how much you have to pay more for the excursion, afternoon activity fees, etc. For me, homeschooling is not a matter of finance. It is a choice. We have a freedom to determine our expense and requirements. However, the motivation of homeschooling because of saving the money will just make the foundation or motivation in homeschooling weaker. New homeschoolers will loose the pure motivation. As a result, it will be easier for them to get burnt out.
Secondly, every homeschooling family has its own standard. We don't know the standard of the new homeschoolers. They might have the same standard or they might have completely difference of homeschooling style and standards. Don't make them disappointed with the difference that they might experience.
Homeschooling Is Better Than Public School
Previously, I have written a post about the difference between homeschooling and public schooling. Most of the points might reveal that homeschooling is better than the public or private schooling. I confess, it is like that for us. However, homeschooling might be not for some children or some family. In addition, not all parents are ready for homeschooling their children. Therefore, it will be wiser when we don't promote homeschooling over. What works well for us, might not work well for others. It also happens in homeschooling.
It is understandable that many children and parents got broken hearted from the public or private schools they belonged to. When your motivation in homeschooling children comes out of anger and revenge, you will loose the positive vision and mission of homeschooling. Telling new homeschoolers that homeschooling is better than other forms of education will just remind the new homeschoolers to be merciful so that they can open their mind with more spirits and enthusiasm. It is better for you to be a non-militant homeschoolers. Homeschooling is just a choice of education.
Homeschooling Is A Solution For Children Education
Every child is different in many ways. What works for one child might not work for other children. Promoting that homeschooling is a solution for children might give fake hope and commercialism. Children grow unpredictably. the solution for one child will be different from the solution for other children. Don't ever give any fake hopes or guarantee in education. They might finally grow disappointment in the new homeschoolers' mind in the future. Even a doctor will never ever give a guarantee of life towards all of sickness and business. We will never know whether homeschooling is going to be the solution for children education or not before they experience it and grow up.
Homeschooling Has Shorter Days
This is what most people think about homeschooling and it might be a real fact that homeschooling days are shorter than the public or private schooling days due to the flexibility and customization. Unfortunately, it doesn't happen to us. Homeschooling makes us hard to stop learning. The learning and schooling times have blended with our routines and habit so it makes us difficult to differentiate. Therefore, it is hard to say that homeschooling days are shorter than the private or public schooling days.
Time management is a hard part in homeschooling, especially for the new homeschoolers. Don't let them discouraged and disappointed to have longer days than what they expected previously. There should be a transition in the time management. New homeschoolers need a lot of adaptation that might be harder to handle since it is really different from what they expected previously.
Children will change positively once they are homeschooled
New homeschoolers often have expectation that their children will grow different from other children who go to the public or private schools. They expect that children will grow more politely, more religiously, and more closely to their parents. The expectation will be our goals, for sure. Once the new homeschoolers put off their children, they will have the positive image will happen very soon. Tell you what, most of those that have this expectation might be disappointed as soon as they find they see there isn't any “new characteristics” appear.
The change to reach the goals need time to adapt. Therefore, I won't ever tell new homeschoolers that the children will change positively after they are homeschooled. The changes need time as well as the time management and other aspects.
To conclude, don't give too ideal expectation toward the new homeschoolers as it might turn into a destroyer toward them. Show them what happen in your homeschooling honestly and naturally, even they are worse than the wishes. It is better for new homeschoolers to know the truth from the beginning rather than being shocked in the middle of the homeschooling journey.
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